***Before I begin this post, I would like to extend my deepest sympathy to the victims and the families and friends of the victims of the Boston Marathon bombing. My thoughts and prayers are with you.***
Hey guys! Hope you are all doing well! It’s been a busy last few days for me with some big changes on the horizon!
For the past two and a half years, I have been “reading” the stay at home mom chapter in my “book of life”. I have enjoyed this chapter immensely. There was a lot of twists, turns, trials and triumphs for the whole family. It has been an exciting chapter, to say the least. Like the chapters of a book, this one had a beginning…….and now, I am at the end.
Before you get to thinking that this is a sad thing for our family, it is actually quite the opposite. Every once in a while, you have to evaluate your life and that of your family. You have to ask yourself if what you chose to take on a couple of years ago is still the best choice now. Sometimes, it isn’t. That’s the case for us.
When Greg and I decided that I would become a stay at home mom again (I stayed home with Courtney for the first three and a half years.), I have to admit, I never thought it would get as difficult as it has gotten. It’s hard to live on one income these days, at least it is for us. In the past couple of years that I’ve been home, we’ve had some unexpected expenses (including a new AC unit!!! NOT CHEAP!), made the decision to eat A LOT healthier and things ain’t gettin’ any cheaper! I knew going back to work at some point was inevitable, but I didn’t know it would be this soon. I came home so that Courtney would no longer have to spend ten and a half hours a day in school/afterschool programs/day camp. With no other family living here besides the three of us, it was proving to be difficult when Courtney was sick and I had call out or leave early from work. I also missed out on so many of her programs at school when she was in Kindergarten and first grade. Long story short, I left my full-time job and came home. It was the best decision we made……at that time.
In the past couple of months, I have been mentally exhausted thinking of ways I could work outside the home and still be there for Courtney, then all of a sudden, the ideas started coming and things started falling into place, but not without some courage on my part. I say courage because for the last couple of years, I have gotten very comfortable in my stay at home mom role. I’m my own “boss”, I can do what I want when I want (sort of!) and things around the house were ALWAYS done! (I have to admit that I am a tad nervous about how things are going to be around here when I go back to work!) Anyway, I think I mentioned in one my posts that I have been shadowing my Sensei to learn how to teach karate classes. I am happy to say that has started to grow into a promising endeavor. As fantastic as that opportunity is, I still need steady income. We already knew that I didn’t have to go back to work full-time, but finding something where I can have the best of both worlds was going to be a challenge.
For a little while, before I knew I had to return to work, I kicked (no pun intended!) around the idea of working at one of the local kickboxing gyms. I may have never been a personal trainer before, but I do have the martial arts experience, which involves quite a bit of kickboxing. I was also nervous about asking about a position simply because I had no idea what I was going to do about Courtney. I was adamant about her not going back to after school or day care. A few weeks went by and that’s when I just said to “H-E-double hockey sticks” with the fear, and I went ahead and asked about a position as a trainer at the gym. While I was there, I made sure to mention my “dilemma” with Courtney and requested that if I was hired, I could bring her with me. I would only be there for four and a half hours a day, after all. Give Courtney a charged I Pod and she’s good to go. Of course, it was something for them to think about. A week later, yesterday, to be exact, I got a call from the owner. I am so excited to tell you that I am going to a “trial shift” tomorrow morning! I’ll know more after tomorrow! Fingers crossed!!! Oh, and did I mention that it’s gonna be OK for Courtney to come to work with me?????!!!!!!
Every chapter must come to an end, and it looks like my chapter of being a full-time stay at home mom is in its last few pages. Then comes the start of a new chapter, a chapter you haven’t any idea yet of what will happen, but you still have to read on, and I’m willing to bet, it’s gonna be an interesting one!
***Note: I do want to mention that I know every family situation is different and everyone has different opinions on working vs. stay at home moms. The statements in this post are specific to MY family and I am in no way judging or condemning anyone who must or chooses to work outside the home. It’s all about what works for your family! :)***
Have you ever had to make changes in your family’s lifestyle to adjust to the rising cost of……….everything!????????
What changes did you make?